IS BREAK UP AN OPTION?

It is very interesting how the body system responds when one gets a feeling of attraction towards the opposite sex. There have been so many descriptions from different people in terms of words used to describe those feelings. At the same time, it is very fascinating such responses happens during the beginnings of the relationship and tends to diminish as the relationship moves on. Some parties in such relationships use different ways to either end the relationship or sustain it. Unfortunately. it is sometimes forgetten that relationship is not an event but a long and arduous process that needs to be nurtured and grown as the parties get to know each other. 

Some parties in a relationship dates for nearly a year and at first, they were sure that guy/girl was “the one”. Sometimes, they can even rekindle the romantic feelings that characterized the onset of their relationship. However later in the relationship, they will be having second thoughts. Should they ignore those thoughts? How can they know if they should break up? How can they determine when to break up? 

Whenever such issues start cropping up in a love relationship, it must not be overlooked or played around with. It should be dealt with ones and for all in order for it not to escalate into something different. 

Initially, the parties must accept the cold truth. Because ignoring danger signs in a relationship are like overlooking the warning signal your health through the small headaches and dizziness. The problem will not just vamoose. In fact, it is possible it will only get worse. 

Signs you should never not ignore

• Blames others for problems 
• Blames others for feelings 
• Things are moving too fast or quick Involvement 
• Verbal abuse or he/she is critical and demeaning or threats of violence 
• Hypersensitivity or he/she is got a volatile temper 
• He/she is secretive about the relationship.  
• The relationship is on-again, off-again 
• He/she pressures you for sex 
• Others have warned you about the other party.  
• Jealous of seeing you with any other guy/girl
• Controlling behavior 
• Unrealistic expectations
• Cruel to animals or children
• "Playful" use of force in sex 
• Past battering 
• Breaking or striking objects 
• He/she has no intention of marriage  
• Any force during an argument